tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5707426452776291749.post5280087510879060320..comments2023-03-30T08:05:37.252-04:00Comments on Naomi Grace: 6 monthsSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07862625766403975606noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5707426452776291749.post-70469325901805912832013-08-28T15:49:22.246-04:002013-08-28T15:49:22.246-04:00Oh Sarah, I wish I knew what more to say. Thank yo...Oh Sarah, I wish I knew what more to say. Thank you for sharing with us. I think you said what a lot of us wish about a lot of things -- that we could just freeze the time moving around us so that we could have the time we need to process life events. But it doesn't, that's the hardest part. It sounds like you're doing exactly what you should be doing -- feeling the grief as you feel it, while still doing the daily tasks you need to. It's so easy to sink into a hole and try to just let the world go one without you. But you can't do that, especially with other children dependent on you. It's okay if everything is a bit chaotic, because the important thing is that your children will remember that even with the sadness, you were still THERE for them. Sure, sometimes you're going to need Dad or someone else take over for a little bit when you need that space for yourself, but all moms do for various reasons. No matter how much you may feel like you're moving in a fog, your kids will remember you still lived life with them, even while all of you ached for the life that was lost. That's the hardest part, and it sounds like you're doing just that -- that's true bravery. <br /><br />I wish I knew something better to say, more wise. But that's the best I have right now. And this: we miss Naomi, too. Not as much as you do, Momma, but we miss her too -- she was so beautiful. I'm still very glad you were her Momma before she went to be with the Lord. For what it's worth, I thought I'd tell you that again.<br /><br />I love you Sarah.ainemistig60https://www.blogger.com/profile/09305815390136067312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5707426452776291749.post-89668682012164801322013-08-27T12:37:16.115-04:002013-08-27T12:37:16.115-04:00Beautiful piece -- and such an apt description of ...Beautiful piece -- and such an apt description of grief as an undertow, just lurking under everything in your life, and making the everyday struggles and challenges just more challenging. <br /><br />I have heard people who have lost children answer the question of how many with, "two living children." That acknowledges your lost child but means you don't have to go into further details with a new aquaintance. <br /><br />-- NicoleSon Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11863309198903282129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5707426452776291749.post-1607697073649767532013-08-27T06:35:02.709-04:002013-08-27T06:35:02.709-04:00I know Krista Welch always says that she has X num...I know Krista Welch always says that she has X number of children, and that 1 is in heaven and the remainder are on earth. She had a later-term miscarriage and this is her method for acknowledging that child who is so special to her and still one of hers in her heart. But I don't know how that would be for you. I just wanted to share it because it's one possibility for wording choice if it makes what you say jive better with your heart. <br /><br />I want to say thanks for sharing this with your public. :) We are all praying for you and thinking of you daily. I am certain that the grieving is such a real yet intangible process that is hard to put into words. It is good for us who've never been in your shoes to hear what it's like. And to know that grief shows itself in ways that we don't always assume (it doesn't always mean tears -- sometimes it means that life is just harder, or we're chronically distracted, etc.). Your writing is beautiful, and we are all honored to read every word that you choose to share. But even if you don't share, that's your business! And we are still remembering you and praying for you, either way.<br /><br />You are so special and wonderful. You are extremely amazing. I was so happy to see you a couple of weeks ago. I couldn't believe how thoughtful you were. You had such a way of making me feel special and also at ease and I could talk to you about my pregnancy with ease, though normally I don't with most people. Or it's superficial talk. So thanks. Sydney McFearlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02475197599327578043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5707426452776291749.post-60056890613220615532013-08-27T02:46:30.746-04:002013-08-27T02:46:30.746-04:00Reading your blog made me think of these lyrics: h...Reading your blog made me think of these lyrics: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/a/amy_grant/stay_for_a_while.htmlMomof7https://www.blogger.com/profile/03161427120425088820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5707426452776291749.post-87852946620395263692013-08-27T02:12:10.671-04:002013-08-27T02:12:10.671-04:00Beautifully written, Sarah. Your description of gr...Beautifully written, Sarah. Your description of grief -- how it is like an undertow -- is so amazingly apt! <br /><br />I wish it didn't sound so trite to say that I am praying for you, but I am. I wish I had more to offer, but I don't. But I do thank you for sharing this journey, in whatever time frame you want, with us. Naomi's life meant a great deal to a lot of people. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com